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Show why the reaction makes sense

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Recognize an understandable experience without endorsing every conclusion or action that follows from it.

What it might sound like

“Given what happened, I can see why that hurt. Have I understood it?”

A common slip

Agreeing with a harmful action or offering reassurance before listening.

Across approaches

The purpose and timing depend on the formulation, relationship, and model. Follow a guide for its particular use rather than treating the wording as a universal script.

• DBT
• Emotion-Focused
• Child and Adolescent

Sources and review scope

• Book, practice manual, Paid · Purchase or library

  Deliberate Practice in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (opens in a new tab)

  Tali Z. Boritz, Shelley McMain, Alexandre Vaz, and Tony Rousmaniere (2023). American Psychological Association

  A skills-rehearsal book for DBT, with exercises for partners and guidance for trainers.

  validation, chain analysis

  Purchase or library access.

  Save to library

• Book, practice manual, Paid · Purchase or library

  Deliberate Practice in Emotion-Focused Therapy (opens in a new tab)

  Rhonda N. Goldman, Alexandre Vaz, and Tony Rousmaniere (2021). American Psychological Association

  A skills-rehearsal book for Emotion-Focused, with exercises for partners and guidance for trainers.

  empathy, markers, tasks

  Purchase or library access.

  Save to library